Realisation

The mind of a teenage girl is somewhat complicated. It's a confusing mix of emotions, dreams, ever-expanding knowledge and junk food (usually).
Not a moment goes by when some form of drama isn't going on in a girl's life, and the best way to deal with that as an outsider looking in, is to always be there, offer a hug - do not under any circumstances keep plaguing her to tell you what's wrong, she will tell you in her own time. Being eighteen is far from easy, you aren't quite an adult, in the way that you are still naive to a lot of the world, and you aren't quite as knowledgeable as you often think you are. Book smart and street smart are two very different things, and that alongside a bit of common sense never goes a miss in the real world.
I have learnt that over the years friendships will be made and broken over stupid little things, and you'll have sudden realisations that so called 'friends' are not really friends at all. Although it may hurt to begin with, you realise that it's for the best, and you need to take the negatives to develop and move on in life. My parents have always told me that you can count your true friends on one hand, and I genuinely believe in that, I have many acquaintances in life, many friends, but only a selection of true friends, and I hold them close to my heart.
I have also learnt that you will get judged for every little thing you do, from the clothes you wear, to your hair colour or style, to your music tastes, interests, choice of friends, choice in relationships and even down to your family or even something as petty as a Facebook status update or not replying to an email/text quick enough. I have realised how important it is not to listen to haters in life, you only have one life, and no matter what you do or who you are - you're never gonna keep everyone happy, so why don't you start with making yourself happy, and your true friends and family, and all the other little pieces will fall right into place.
As clichee as this is going to sound, life really is an emotional rollercoaster, I don't care what anybody says, but everyone deals with it differently, and unless you have walked a mile in their shoes, then you shouldn't judge how they react/deal with different problems that arise.
Dear parents/friends etc - you need to realise that we will constantly ask for your advice, and come to you with every little problem that comes our way, and you need to be prepared for us to do the complete opposite, because it's our life, and we need to learn our own lessons. But we don't need the "I told you so..." talk over and over, all we need is a hug and consolation that everything is going to be okay. We will have relationships that go wrong, we will choose friendships we shouldn't, we will do things that are bad for us and regret it, as well as messing up our priorities, but it's what scientists and psycho-analysts call a learning curve. I realise that it must be frustrating for an outsider looking in, but you need to realise that we need to live our own lives, and we need to establish ourselves in the world, and we need guidance, that doesn't mean we are going to live exactly by what we are advised to do - sorry to disappoint.
I have experienced so many amazing things in my life, I have enjoyed a number of sporting successes, educational successes, personal goals and amazing memories with family and friends over the years, and none of these would be possible without all the negatives that life has thrown my way. I want to thank everybody that has been in my life, whether it be for a short time or for the long haul, you have all shaped me to be the person that I am today, and I wouldn't change anything, not even the negatives.

So next time you see someone you love/care about upset, instead of question them - give them a hug? They'll appreciate it a lot more.

Until next time, much love. xo

Has 'love' lost all meaning?

One of my pet peeves, is the use of the word 'love'. I hate how it is thrown around so easily nowadays, it renders the term meaningless, and it's lost it's effect in day to day life. I don't understand how people can say they are "in love" with someone after knowing/being in a relationship less than a month, often even less than that. I guess I'm quite traditional, and I think that society misses the whole chivalry aspect, I don't think that people try as much as they used to, and too many relationships are made and broken online. Call me old-fashioned, but I'd rather be spoken to in person and asked out on a proper date, rather than get a text message or Facebook message asking me to go somewhere.

Another thing that I strongly dislike is infidelity. I really don't understand the concept. If you are unhappy enough to cheat, then why don't you take a second and ask yourself, why you are in the relationship? Is it not easier to break off the relationship, and save the fall from grace, the loss of respect, and trust? I don't understand what goes through a persons mind to make them do such a thing. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned in that respect as well.

On the more positive side of things, when approached correctly, I do believe that relationships are worth fighting for. Throughout my life, I have been surrounded by people in both good and bad relationships, and I cannot help but learn from their experiences. I am the type of person that will absorb everything that is going on around me, and use them to develop. I have the heart of a hopeless romantic, and the thought of someone making the effort to write me a song/poem, buy me my favourite flowers for no reason, or just compliments me when I'm feeling low - makes me feel all warm inside. For a relationship to flourish in my eyes, there needs to be that element of romance, maybe not all of the time, but it needs to be there. The perfect relationship, in my opinion, consists of two souls destined to find eachother, the kind of love where you can finish eachothers' sentences, and I'll leave you all with one of my favourite quotes I stumbled across one day...

"When you start to know someone, all their physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and your body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant."

– Lisa Unger, Beautiful Lies

My first blog post.

Well, I kept telling myself that I needed to start up a blog over the years, and fast approaching my nineteenth birthday, I've managed to do so. I'm a very opinionated person, and I'm the type of person that will always have a lot to say. I'm a firm believer in following your dreams, you should always put your all into everything you do, and pursue happiness, whatever it means to you.

 I've experienced a lot of things during my life, that I wouldn't wish upon anybody else, but I use them everyday to strengthen my mind, body and soul. Perhaps the most influential moments in my life were somewhat negative, but from negatives you can develop and grow. My family mean the absolute world to me, and without them, I wouldn't be the person I am today, so I want to take this opportunity to thank them, and one of my main aims in life is to make them proud. I'm your average teenage girl, I make mistakes, I ask for advice and do the opposite, and come running back when things go awry, I can be ecstatic one moment, and in floods of tears the next, but I wouldn't change that for the world. I may not be a perfect human being, but it's all about loving what you have, and making the most of every single moment.

I am very passionate about my sport, I love football, and I am a proud Arsenal supporter. In my spare time I train in Martial Arts - Kinjite Ryu, in which I hold a Brown Belt which is grade 3kyu. I love learning new things and I am willing to try anything that is thrown my way sports wise. You don't know what you can achieve unless you try. I have loved education throughout my life, and I am proud to have 12 decent GCSE's, a Sports Leadership qualification, 2 AS Levels and 3 full A-Levels under my belt, I have been accepted into University, but I am hoping to go straight into work, as with experience I can excel in my chosen field.

Eighteen is a funny ol' age, you're neither here nor there, you don't have a firm grasp on reality just yet, but at the same time you aren't naive and you are beginning to realise how the world really works. It's the age where friendships are tested through educational/work related choices, when relationships are just as easily made as they are broken, and when you start to realise, that growing up has to happen a LOT sooner than you had first planned when you were younger. There are many laughs and tears and memories to be made, yet I wouldn't want to change it. Life's a challenge, rise to/above it. There's not much I have to say, but this is a little introduction to my happy bubble life...

Until next time, take care of yourselves,
xoxox