I've been thinking a lot recently about how we as human beings take a lot of things to heart, too much in fact. Life is too short to be letting negatives take over your life. Everyone is bound to have weaknesses, and everyone is bound to have moments when they feel like giving up - but it's just not worth it. Life's there for living, you need to grab opportunities with both hands, and it's time to strengthen and grow.
I've got the best family I could ask for, they are always there to support me through every little decision I make. They are there to advise me when things get tough, and even if I choose to act differently, they are there to pick up the pieces if it all goes awry. I can't even begin to explain how much love I have for my family, yes we bicker from time to time, and thing's aren't always plain sailing, but they've been there when I've hit rock bottom, and when nobody else was there to build me back up. My family are my rock, without them I don't know where I'd be now.
Friends come and go, but there are a few in my life that are in it for the long haul. I've learnt in life that you can count your true friends on one hand, and my parents have always said that to me. I have a lot of acquaintances in my life, which although we have a lovely time when we spend time together, they wouldn't be the people I'd call in case of emergency, and they wouldn't necessarily be the first in line if I had news to tell. I'm also well aware that a friendship worth keeping is one that is two-way, not one-way, and I have cut strings from a lot of 'friendships' in the past that were all take, take, take. I thank everyone that has come in and out of my life over the years, because they have had a part in making me who I am, whether it be a minuscule part or one that's ongoing. To those that are sticking around - thanks for the memories and many more to come.
My life may not always be roses and confetti, but by having a positive outlook, the negatives aren't so prominent, and I have time to appreciate what I do have in my life, because I do have it a lot better than a lot of people in the world, and I'm so very thankful for that. I'm moving forwards, and I'm not going to look backwards anymore, it's no longer an option. Here's to the future, and to all my dreams coming true.
Friday, 22 July 2011
Monday, 11 July 2011
Have you ever strolled down Memory Lane and remembered you don't live there anymore?
Have you ever strolled down Memory Lane and remembered you don't live there anymore?
I have, and it has positive and negative effects, depending on which part of Memory Lane you're reminiscing about.
Firstly, when strolling down Memory Lane recently, I was thinking, are exes, exes for a reason? Everybody has someone in their past that they cannot forget and will always feel something towards. I recently found myself shocked, when I found out that an ex had gotten engaged, and is pretty serious about it all. Of course I'm happy for them, and I'm happy to see that things are progressing, but I couldn't help but ponder over our past. We were on and off for the most part of my teenage years, and as a result, he is referred to as "THE" ex, as he's the one I spent the most time with, and arguably felt the most for. This then led me on to think, after having him break-up with his now fiancee only two short months ago to try and get back with me, how serious can this proposed marriage be? Also, why there is such a need for certain family members to contact me out of the blue, to inform me that the date has been set, the dress has been bought, family members are booking time to travel over for the wedding. After all, I am the ex, I am not part of their lives anymore, so why go through the trouble of trying to get me involved? And magically when the couple have an argument I get the blame for problems - funny that?
Anyway, long story short, this got me to thinking "Are exes, exes for a reason?". I mean, you have many happy memories, and you must have seen something special in them at some stage, so when do you start referring to someone as "the ex" I mean sure, after you break up they are no longer the boyfriend/girlfriend/partner etc, but do you automatically refer to them as an ex? And is there a reason to refer to them as an ex? A wise friend of mine once said to me:
"An ex is called an ex, because they are an EXample of someone you shouldn't be with, and an EXample of what not to look for" - which has gotten me through a lot over the years. People change, things change, but is that really a reason to look back at a relationship with clenched fists and grinding teeth? Why as human beings, or maybe I'm being too general and it's a teenage girl thing, but why do we dwell on those things that went wrong in a relationship? And why do we not instead dote on the things that went right, and reminisce about all the cute little love letters, the dates you went on, the silly inside jokes, and the time you spent together just being comfortable with one another?
Regret is such a strong word, and I can honestly, hand on my heart, say that I don't regret anything. I may look back at things and think "WOW that was a stupid thing to do" but I wouldn't change it for the world, it's shaped me and it has made me the person I am today. Another quote that has gotten me through a lot in the past is that "Life is like photography, we take a lot of photographs, but you need the negatives to develop and to find beauty".
Have you ever strolled down Memory Lane and remembered you don't live there anymore? I have, and I'm having realisations every day, and I know that the future will be worth it, and I am awaiting that happy ending with baited breath.
I have, and it has positive and negative effects, depending on which part of Memory Lane you're reminiscing about.
Firstly, when strolling down Memory Lane recently, I was thinking, are exes, exes for a reason? Everybody has someone in their past that they cannot forget and will always feel something towards. I recently found myself shocked, when I found out that an ex had gotten engaged, and is pretty serious about it all. Of course I'm happy for them, and I'm happy to see that things are progressing, but I couldn't help but ponder over our past. We were on and off for the most part of my teenage years, and as a result, he is referred to as "THE" ex, as he's the one I spent the most time with, and arguably felt the most for. This then led me on to think, after having him break-up with his now fiancee only two short months ago to try and get back with me, how serious can this proposed marriage be? Also, why there is such a need for certain family members to contact me out of the blue, to inform me that the date has been set, the dress has been bought, family members are booking time to travel over for the wedding. After all, I am the ex, I am not part of their lives anymore, so why go through the trouble of trying to get me involved? And magically when the couple have an argument I get the blame for problems - funny that?
Anyway, long story short, this got me to thinking "Are exes, exes for a reason?". I mean, you have many happy memories, and you must have seen something special in them at some stage, so when do you start referring to someone as "the ex" I mean sure, after you break up they are no longer the boyfriend/girlfriend/partner etc, but do you automatically refer to them as an ex? And is there a reason to refer to them as an ex? A wise friend of mine once said to me:
"An ex is called an ex, because they are an EXample of someone you shouldn't be with, and an EXample of what not to look for" - which has gotten me through a lot over the years. People change, things change, but is that really a reason to look back at a relationship with clenched fists and grinding teeth? Why as human beings, or maybe I'm being too general and it's a teenage girl thing, but why do we dwell on those things that went wrong in a relationship? And why do we not instead dote on the things that went right, and reminisce about all the cute little love letters, the dates you went on, the silly inside jokes, and the time you spent together just being comfortable with one another?
Regret is such a strong word, and I can honestly, hand on my heart, say that I don't regret anything. I may look back at things and think "WOW that was a stupid thing to do" but I wouldn't change it for the world, it's shaped me and it has made me the person I am today. Another quote that has gotten me through a lot in the past is that "Life is like photography, we take a lot of photographs, but you need the negatives to develop and to find beauty".
Have you ever strolled down Memory Lane and remembered you don't live there anymore? I have, and I'm having realisations every day, and I know that the future will be worth it, and I am awaiting that happy ending with baited breath.
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