I recently stumbled across an article, and it concluded that based on a number of scientific studies the average crush lasts four months and if it lasts longer then you've fallen in love.
I was just wondering, how much time is wasted pining over someone. Looking back over the years, I'm pretty certain I wasted a lot of time thinking about or being with the wrong people. But, that's not what this blog post is about, I just had to get that little point out in the open. I apologise in advance for the lack of articulation in this post.
I've learnt over the years that, to keep someone interested, you have to make the effort, you can't expect them to do anything. The "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" mantra is complete nonsense, and if you start ignoring someone or not giving them as much attention as you used to - they're going to fall for someone else and fall out of love or lose any developing feelings for you in the meantime. Love is a complicated thing, it never comes around when you want it to, and when it does it's always at inappropriate times or it's something that has no future.
I'm currently in the situation described in the blog title. It's been playing on my mind a lot recently and basically, I don't know what is worth pursuing. On the one hand I'm completely smitten with someone and I feel safe around them, and we are never short of things to talk about, but on the other hand, I'm completely head over heels for the other person, I know there is a higher possibility of a future with them, and I get butterflies every time we speak. But it's a matter of head over heart, or heart over head. The earlier is losing my affection - I don't feel like I'm as important to them anymore, as they seem to putting less and less effort in than when everything began. However, the other person seems to be giving me more attention than ever before, is being sweet, considerate, and I know I can rely on them.
So the decision is definitely a 'to be continued'.
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