You always play the victim, but you were the problem to begin with.

Have you ever been in a situation, where you fall out with a friend, a lover, or a family member? And you stop and think about what they said, and realise that they were just trying to guilt-trip you and try to convince you that you were in the wrong, when in fact they were the problem from the beginning?

I'm all for backing down and apologising if I'm in the wrong, but when people constantly play the victim, it gets on my last nerve. It's almost as if they don't have the capacity to admit their fault and move on from it. I'd like to think that the people in my life are unique, and special and there for a reason, but I sometimes find myself questioning why I bother with some of them, as they never seem to return the favour.

Life's difficult, there are a lot of different paths that each and every one of us can follow. Myself, I intend to live a career-motivated life, so that I can fuel my social-butterfly lifestyle. Others, may pursue a marriage/family, to find the answer of existence or some other spiritual journey. I fully understand that people have committments other than a friendship/relationship/family tie, however, a bit of effort once in a while without being prompted would be lovely. Life is all about compromise, there has to be an element of give and take, otherwise all of the aforementioned relationships would not be successfully maintained.

Definitely in a more 'glass half empty' mood today, but take everything with a pinch of salt and things will get much better. Life isn't as bad as people make out, problems that may bring your whole world crashing down around you are easily solved if you sit down and think about it, people may have a reason for saying something that initially upset you, and no matter what, you can always rely on your true friends.

Until next time,

xoxoxo

But these are just thoughts, little matchbox...

I was fortunate enough to go to an Adam Cohen concert recently, and even more fortunate to have met him and have been told I was beautiful by him.

For those of you that don't know, Adam Cohen is the very talented son of the legendary Leonard Cohen. He is an inspiring musician and singer/songwriter. When I first got hold of his album 'Like A Man' I listened to it on repeat-nonstop for weeks, I played it when I went to bed, I listened to it non-stop at work, and I found myself lost in his music, losing myself in the lyrics, and searching for deeper/hidden meanings in all of the tracks. If you get a chance I would highly recommend you listen to three tracks in particular:  Matchbox, What Other Guy and Girls These Days. Prepare yourself for sheer brilliance, both lyrically and musically.

As well as being such a talented person, he was a genuinely lovely guy. He spoke eloquently with articulation, and sounded like such an intelligent individual. After speaking to him backstage, he seemed like an all-rounder. He inspired me to continue with my ambitions and continue working, as it will all pay off in the end.

I'll leave you with one of the quotes he used during the show, from Lenin:
"Sometimes decades pass and nothing happens; and then sometimes weeks pass and decades happen."
What I interpreted from this, was that life varies, and that you shouldn't sit and watch things pass you by, take everything as it comes and run with it - the only way is up and stay optimistic.

His music is truly beautiful, if my heart could speak, it would sound precisely like that.